I used to feel depressed all the time. I never wanted to leave the house. I didn’t want to hang out with my friends, play videogames or do anything. I overcame it, but I know how damaging it is during a job search. Fortunately, you can overcome your depression and fight your mental demons. For this blog post let’s look at typical negative job situations and how to stay positive.
NO REPLIES FROM JOB BOARDS
Do be optimistic and put a positive spin on things
You’ve been at it for weeks, months, maybe even years and you’re not getting any replies. The most common problem is your resume and LinkedIn lack the right content. Take a break from applying for jobs and overhaul your resume and social profiles first. If that doesn’t work, spend more time tailoring your resume to match job descriptions. It’s easy to feel down when you don’t get replies, but each rejection means you’re one step closer to a yes.
Don’t complain about your job search on social media
Social media, an excellent way to read the news and connect with people. But it has its negativity problems. I see many people complain about their job search on social media, and it’s not smart. Not only can it affect your chances of getting hired it’s not the best way to vent out your frustration. Instead, turn to a Word document and type your negative thoughts on it instead of your Facebook wall. Keep it for you to re-read whenever you feel down and don’t send your angry notes to anyone.
EMAILS AND PHONE CALLS GETTING IGNORED BY HIRING MANAGER
Do understand implicit communication
Often the most frustrating part of a job search. You’ve made it past the initial review, but when finding out whether you got the job or not you’re left out in the cold. To save yourself a lot of grief, learn to understand implicit communication. Not everybody will be upfront with you and take the time to tell you no. So, learn to put more importance on other people’s actions rather than their words. Getting ignored is frustrating and can come off as cruel. But you need to accept that’s just how people prefer to communicate sometimes. So, if you find yourself doing most of the communication, move on after two contact attempts.
Don’t keep pestering people when you get no response
Always understand that during a job search you have to be patient. If you don’t hear back from a hiring manager after a positive interview, then it’s okay to follow up ten days later. If they’re still unresponsive, consider calling them instead of sending an email. If that doesn’t work then just remember silence is a response. And the worst you can do is get angry and keep contacting them.
DEALING WITH NEGATIVITY
Do celebrate every victory no matter how small
At the beginning of a job search, you might have a hard time getting a response from anyone. I remember when that happen to me, and it was a turning point just to get a phone call for a job. However, others around me would say phone calls with recruiters don’t mean anything. Rather than let their negativity get to me I stayed proactive and found people who would encourage me. As a result, I continued to stay motivated and felt much happier doing my job search. Remember, phone interviews may not seem like much, but they set you up for the next step in the interview phase. So be proud of yourself for getting any return interest from an employer no matter how small it may seem.
Don’t surround yourself with negative people
Building on the last tip, the people around you can make a big difference in your mood and happiness. If your friends and family aren’t supportive of you and your job search, then remove them from your life. It may mean getting your own apartment or moving to a new city. The most important process of a job search is that you put your happiness first. Do this by being around people who bring out the best in you.
LACK OF MOTIVATION
Do make your job search a habit
Dedicating yourself to a job search takes a lot of time and energy. Your motivation will eventually wane, so it’s important you turn it into a habit and start small. Applying for one job every day might not sound like much. But if you do it every day or at least on weekdays, that’s five to seven potential jobs each week. Some days you’ll feel extra motivated and can do more. Other days you won’t feel like doing anything. That’s okay. What’s important is that you don’t break your habit and stick with your job search no matter what.
Don’t work all the time
You may think you need to spend all your free time applying for jobs, but it’s counter-productive. It’s better to work smarter not harder. Treat your job search like a regular job and work set hours. Working a little bit on the weekend is okay, but you’ll burn out if you’re working more than 50 hours a week. Finally, remember to reward yourself at the end of the day for all the hard work you put into your job search. Doing this will help you stay motivated and have something to look forward to after you finish your work.
There is no way getting around that depression can have serious effects on your job search. However, if you remember to keep a positive attitude, then you’ll get through the worst of it no matter what.
I’ve decided to write a two-month blog series that will cover different challenging situations many people face during a job search. My goal is to pass along all the knowledge I’ve learned in my own job searches and help those succeed in finding work they love. Thanks for reading!